Research has found that parents play a significant role in shaping the way their child feels and thinks about their bodies. Statistics tell us that children as young as 5 can feel unhappy with their bodies. This means starting to boost your child’s body image while they’re young can significantly impact how they feel about themselves as they grow up.
Here are five practical ideas to help your child develop a positive body image and resources to help.
Avoid stereotypes in your kids’ media
Look for TV shows, movies, and other media that portray healthy body sizes and avoid stereotypical story lines or gendered characters, such as young girls in makeup or boys who are always “macho”.
- Pay attention to kids’ beliefs about gender and body types, and use simple language to debunk stereotypes: “What do you think Andy would like for his birthday? Trucks? Do you think he’d like dolls, too?”
- Whenever possible, use gender-neutral or gender-diverse pronouns to reference characters, animals, and so on. For example, not every dinosaur is a “he” and every kitten a “she.”
Call out stereotypes when you see them.
When you see gender stereotypes in media, talk about them.
- As much as possible, minimize exposure to stereotypical depictions of men and women, but when kids see them, demonstrate that questioning how men and women are portrayed is valuable (and even fun). Ask: “Do you think she’s cold in that bikini?”
- Teach kids how magazines and advertising photos are changed by computers to make skin look smoother or people look taller. Make a game out of it: Spot the Photoshop!
Ask kids what they think about solid or slim toys or characters on TV and in movies. Keep an ear out for kids expressing assumptions about real people based on their body sizes.
- Remind kids that bodies come in all shapes and sizes, even if they don’t see that on TV, and that variety is normal, healthy, and part of what makes life interesting.
- Tap into pre-schoolers’ ability to empathize by asking how they think a TV character felt when criticized for his or her appearance. Ask: “How would you feel if someone spoke to you like that?”
Ban “fat talk” in your family.
Parents who complain about their appearances or bodies, even casually, make a big impact on how their kids think about their bodies.
- Model a positive attitude toward your own body, and encourage kids to think positively about what their bodies can do. Ask: “What can you do with those strong arms?”
- Discuss health instead of weight or size. Ask: “How does your body feel when you play sports/exercise/run around?” Say: “My body feels so energetic when I eat healthy food.”
FACTS: According to Common Sense Media’s Children, Teens, Media, and Body Image, kids who think their mums don’t like their bodies end up not liking their own bodies, and girls whose dads are critical of their weight tend to think of themselves as less physically able than those whose dads don’t.
Focus on behaviour, talents, and character traits instead of physical size or appearance.
When discussing fictional characters, celebrities, and friends and family, talk about what they do, not what they look like.
- Talk about qualities such as kindness, curiosity, and perseverance that you value more than appearance. Ask: “What makes a good friend?” Say: “She must have practiced for a long time to be good at dancing!”
- Prepare kids for when they hear others commenting, comparing, or criticizing bodies or appearance. Role-play situations where kids can try out different responses, such as, “I don’t care what she looks like. She’s friendly, and that’s what matters to me.”